destroying the village to save it

A (mis)quote came out of the Vietnam War:

"We had to destroy the village in order to save it."

It's a philosophy that far too much of traditional parenting appears to embrace: break the child down in order to help her grow up right.

If this sounds counterintuitive to you, it's because IT IS. The only thing that breaking down a child accomplishes is breaking down a child. Don't.

Coming soon: Click the "destroying the village" label below to read articles about parenting practices we find dangerous and why.